dirtbags & dorkwards 2

 so i actually wrote this one back in May.  but i noticed a minor grammar mistake and corrected it, and i guess since its been so long since i wrote it it now thinks that this got published in August.  yeah.  go technology.


recently i have allowed myself to become somewhat frustrated with the lady-types over matters that are very much insignificant and shouldn't really frustrate me.  luckily for me, said frustration has not lasted long thanks to some humblings experiences which i have had in my child development class (which, by the way i am actually taking at the suggesting of a girl that i know).

so on monday while semi-grouchily sitting there in class we were learning about like genetics and stuff and how babies inherit stuff from parents and whatnot.  yeah.  after the first half the teacher was like, 'ok now let's have a break and when we come back we're gonna watch some birthing videos.'


holy. crap.



well i couldn't be frustrated with women after that.  compared to pregnancy and childbirth i can't really say that i've ever had any problems.  like ever.

so watching these.. videos and the subsequent discussion made me think about some of my own experiences.  being the youngest i obviously never saw my own mom carry children.  my sister grew up and left the house when i was pretty young so i just didn't really learn a whole lot about what women have to deal with till later.

so to continue my life education my sister moved back into the area around the same time that she was having her kids so i got to see what is was like to have someone that i was close to go through the whole thing.  i figure her experience was similar to most pregnancies, with the illness, tiredness, nausea, constant hunger, and getting kicked in the guts regularly.  not to mention that when she's pregnant she tends to burp in front of me.

now i wasn't there to see it, but i know that my mom had a pretty hard time carrying children cause whenever i annoyed her or teased her too much she'd just remind me that when she was pregnant with me that her blood pressure was so high that she was bedridden for like forever (or whatever) and that it almost killed her.  that would basically always end my teasing cause there's really no way around the pregnancy/childbirth card.  really, there isn't.

and then my mom and sister are always saying how its worth it to deal with such a ridiculously painful process, and how much they love their kids and stuff like that.  wow. just wow

now, a majority of the women that i know are my age and do not yet have children.  but at some point or another i've heard most of the girls that i know talk about how they look forward to having their own kids and being mothers sometime in the future. 

i'd have to be a pile of crap not to have respect for moms and what they do.  yeah,  i know, mothers day was like last sunday, but i also didn't watch birthing videos on mothers day.  so yeah.

now, while this class period was an effective reminder for me to respect women, i still let myself get a bit annoyed and frustrated again.  looks like i'm a slow learner.  in order to fix this problem, i had another humbling class period in the same child development class.

so this time a lot of the discussion was on infancy as well as puberty/adolescence  (yeah.. that a lot in one day hahah).  we got on the subject of eating disorders and our teacher told us that this is basically the #1 problem for women at BYU. 

this was both surprising and depressing for me.  the other sad thing is that a major reason that a lot of girls develop eating disorders is cause guys say stupid things to them.  some dirtbag that a girl's dating tells her that she's not pretty.  or even her dad.  i don't really want to think about it cause it pisses me off.

this probably aint the only factor, but its probably the biggest.  and of course, most guys who are my friends and are reading this aren't piles of crap.  but i'm really disappointed that despite all the awesome studmuffin cool cool super good guys that can be found at this university, there are still enough dirtbags who make girls feel worthless.

now sometimes we do gotta tell someone that we aren't interested.  something that i've learned recently is that if someone turns you down that doesn't mean that there's something wrong with you and there isn't something wrong with them either.  its not really anyone's fault.  most of the time people don't just see each other and meet and boom they like each other or whatever.  so yeah.  good people sometimes gotta hurt each other.

but its when the bad guy tells his girlfriend that she's not pretty or when an idiot father says something terrible to his daughter that girls will start having eating disorders or trouble trusting men.  again, its depressing to know that its such a problem here.

i can go on, but i don't want to.  i think i've made my point.  so instead, i want to end with a positive note.  (YEAH! POSITIVE!)

first off, i want to mention all the good guys out there.  seriously, you bros rock.  we live in a world were there's a lot of dirtbag men out there.  society likes to tell us that men are all terds.  but you don't care, cause you're a good guy.  you still do what you can to be nice to people.  you treat women like they deserve.  you love your mom.  you feel bad when you aren't as good as you want to be.  and you're just awesome dudes in general. 

keep it up, bros.  even when its hard.  cause yall are total muffins of the stud variety.

Treat women right, bros.  Mario is a great example.  He fights legions of goombas, koopa troopas, piranha plants, and bullet bills in order to give Boswer the axe and save the Princess.  And she appreciates a good man who treats her right.

Some of you dudes may feel like Luigi, just as good a guy as his brother Mario, yet many people don't even know his name.  Just keep fighting, bros.  Your princess is in another castle.

second, a word to all the really nice girls out there.  i've been able to meet a lot of really awesome women in the past few months.  i'm pretty sure that it's nice women that keep the world from falling apart.  so to all yall lady-types, don't give up on the good guys.  cause they're around.  sure, we're dumb, and yall are really patient with that, but we're still good.  don't give up.. and you'll find your own Mario... or Luigi.

anyways... yeah.  that's it.  i have a history book to go finish reading now... though i'd rather be playing Super Mario Bros..